Recipe for a Millennial (Written by a Millennial)

Recipe for a Millennial (Written by a Millennial)

According to, the term “millennial” most specifically refers to the generation of people born between 1982 and the year 2000. TIME Magazine called it the “Me, Me, Me!” generation- a title that would come as offensive to many. However, many millennials are embracing the label, saying that those who do not possess high narcissistic capabilities will not travel so far in life; that being narcissistic is, in fact, the key to success.

So what is it really like to be a millennial? What makes us this way? What causes adults over 35 to be so confused or lost as to why the internet is so essential in everyday life?

It has to do with the time in which the internet was publicly available. On August 6th, of 1991, the internet became accessible to anyone with a computer. At this time, the oldest millennials would have been 9 years old. The millennials in my graduating class were yet to be born. Cognitive development occurs most quickly and effectively between the ages of 7 and 12. According to the theories of Piaget, this would be referred to as the “Concrete Operational” stage. This is supposed to be the time in which children become less egocentric and more aware of others. However, it was during these years that millennials were submersed in the instant satisfaction of seven hundred cable channels, and an ability to play games on a computer. The simple procedure of pressing buttons and immediately seeing that transfer to a screen in front of us was the beginning of an inability to wait. And that inability characterizes our generation.
When you think of narcissism, most would think of loving oneself. Perhaps narcissism comes from an inability to do the work to make others appreciate, love, or have affection or adoration for you in some way. An inability to put in the work, and wait. Now it’s easy to argue that people have been narcissistic for ages, however, the ability to share our faces and experiences on nearly limitless platforms instantaneously gives way for impatience.

Adults and teachers often accuse the millennial generation of being incapable of normal face to face to communication. And think about it- how do we react when Twitter is over capacity? When that little whale is looking at you, telling you that- no, you can’t post that picture of what you had for dinner- you become angry. Some, enraged. You wanted others to envy you for your superior dining experience but now you have to wait. Waiting makes us angry. We don’t want to call our friends and tell them, because they probably wouldn’t care, because what we have to say doesn’t serve them in some way. We want to show pictures so that without words, we can make others envious. We are too impatient to develop balanced friendships, because we are used to the speed at which we can make people envy. Why have friends when you can have paparazzi?

Which brings us to Instagram. Instagram allows users to post as many photos as they wish and tag them for all the world to see. Some users choose to have their pages private, but I have learned from personal experience that some people lock their pages simply to make you feel privileged to view their photos. They’ll add anyone that requests, but they want to make their life seem like it’s worth keeping from others. So that you’ll be interested. And maybe, they can seem like a celebrity.

Speaking of celebrities, YouTube has opened the door to allowing nearly anyone to be a celebrity. Many girls are self-titled “make-up gurus”. Many girls, like user Blair Fowler, purchase products and clothing, and review them for other girls, sometimes gaining so much influence in the online community that they are often offered products in exchange for giving a review (whether positive or negative). These girls are well respected, and usually make an average of $1 per 1,000 views. This seems fair, as they put a lot of time, effort, and money into making videos, and really do aide consumer satisfaction. However, the popularity race mostly comes down to who has the most money to buy the most things. According to a recent article by Neil Patel of, he writes that, “By analyzing the likes of over 1000 photos, images that are about lifestyle (fancy cars, homes, living a luxurious life) or that are personal tend to get the most engagement. Photos that don’t contain either of those two elements tend to get 11.4% less likes.” People like to envy other people. It’s the only way that magazine like People or Us Weekly get any attention. We like to think about what we don’t have, because as millennials, we only focus on what we want, not what we already have.

Sometimes, that’s not a bad thing.

Studies show that millennials have better job hunting and resume building tactics. Being concerned with one’s self- appearance and impression upon others causes them to build themselves up in a (hopefully) professional way that makes them more appealing to business owners and executives. Millennials want so bad to be financially stable, popular, well-liked (two different things), and do what they love. Those that present themselves across many platforms and are not slanderous or reckless with their internet reputation gain big points with hiring managers. Employers want people that can appeal to other people. Who can make consumers need the product or envy the lifestyle. They want college graduates who put themselves out on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, WordPress, Tumblr, and yes, even Google+. They want manipulative people who know how to utilize social medias and create a desire for something, whether it be a social cause, a product, or news.

And if we can try to care about others in the process, maybe we can break the status quo.

Finally, soft hair.

Finally, soft hair.

So you know how I wrote that post about WISHING I had soft hair like “everyone else”? Well I finally achieved it. After a few months of split-end serum and S-Factor smoothing cream, I realized it was going to take more than over-the-counter beauty products to fix my problem.
So my boyfriend’s cousin, who’s a very talented Paul Mitchell student, performed a “PM Shines” clear coat on my hair. It’s basically like a top coat for your nails. It makes your hair shiny and soft. It finally solved my problem. Now my hair is actually easy to comb through and feels like that fluff on my kitty (pictured here) Talilah.
You can check out my boyfriend’s cousin’s blog- her name is Jess, as

By the way, this treatment is only about $25 and totally worth it.

<3Back to College Guide: Fashion<3

So, I’ve been wanting to do a new post for quite a while, something substantial.  I finally decided I’ve been doing a lot of shopping and should do a back-to-college/high school shopping guide!  I am personally a huge fan of black as a clothing color, year round.  I know that that’s probably not appealing to a lot of people, but my skin physically does not tan, and light colored clothes do not flatter me in the least.  However, I do like to add colorful and classic accessories, bright nail colors, and cute shoes to brighten up my outfits, as well as a few graphic shirts.

As most of you can probably relate, I don’t have a lock box at Gringott’s full of Galleons by which I can purchase massive amounts of shoes and accessories.  I’m a sophomore in college with a 3-day a week job with a low yield, so this is my fashion on-a-budget advice for the rest of us lowly citizens.

Everyone hates pants, right?  I do.  Yet, it is expected of us that we wear them. Therefore, I have recommended some pairs of shorts and pants that not only look fashionable and will match nearly anything, but will also not make you cry when it’s time to check out.

I firmly believe that every girl should own the following items in the leg-covering category for school season.

  • Dark Skinny Jeans
  • Dark-Denim Bootcut Jeans
  • Some extra nice Bootcut Jeans for wearing out or to events (SPARKLES)
  • Yoga Pants
  • Crop Leggings
  • White shorts
  • Black shorts
  • Denim shorts

As long as you have these basic things, you really are set in the pant area.  Below I have some recommendations of where to find these things.  If you’re into brand names, I would not suggest bothering getting a certain brand of pants, unless you love L.A. Idol, like I do.  I like to have a few pairs of low-price jeans (Target is selling most of their denim for $8 right now) and one pair of high-end jeans.  Usually Guess, Calvin Klein, or like right now, L.A. Idols.  L.A. Idols are an adorable and more affordable replacement for Miss Me jeans which normally retail for $108+.  L.A. Idols are rarely over $65, and you can usually get them for 20-30% off during boutique sales in your town.  Well, now that I got off on that tangent, here are some photo examples of the cute bottoms you can find almost anywhere.


Starting from the upper left-to-right,  there are L.A. Idol’s on the left, them some denim shorts (super cute) from Target.  Next there’s a Target Maxi dress, a close-up of those beautiful LA idols, some JC Penny shorts in white (these are my ÜBER favorite.  The denim is super heavy and they look so bright!)  and lastly some Target skinnys and Wal Mart shorts with some cute little flag pocket thingies hang in’ out der fer youz.

Next is the shoes.  Who doesn’t love shoes? I have about 25 pairs and I STILL feel like I have absolutely nothing.  I would suggest that amongst your shoe collection to make sure you have a pair of super cute, good quality sandals (these ones are on sale for $15 at Kohl’s right now) and some cute running/athletic shoes.  I like to have cute running shoes even though I don’t run, much less participate in athletic activity.  I’m more of a get-nachos-and-not-sweat type.  Thasss jus me dohh.   I be lazy.



I am not going to go horribly in-depth into shirts, but I must recommend that you check TJ Maxx every other week for great new tops.  I like to look at their display tops near the front, because they’re usually the cutest and the best quality.  I think right now, the trend is long flowing tops with long necklaces to match.  I’m more into light, simple jewelry, but I also love these looks.  It’s also très nécessaire that you invest in a slouchy cardigan for those cold buildings, classrooms, or days at work or in the office.  I suggest this one in the middle picture, from Maurices.  I bought mine in a size 3X because I love the slouchiness, and I’m really more just like an X-Large.  I always upsize my clothing also because I am forgetful about what I put in the wash, so if it gets dried, it’s no problemo.

I also must mention that you NEED, NEED, NEED a knee-length dress for school.  You want something that can easily go from day to night without any problems, maybe with a simple amount of jewelry.  I like to shop on, ’cause they gots tons of cute stuff in EVERY SIZE. Fo’ real.


Next you gots to have the accessories.  Lots of them.  Well, you don’t have to, no one is making you, but it is the key to having a beautiful wardrobe.  I love small jewelry, and delicate things.  I recently purchased some rings and necklaces from Claire’s, which were $5.50 each.  They are so adorable.  I also picked up a Lavender cross body bag from RELIC, which is pictured here with my Claire’s infinity ring. (The polish I’m wearing here is Lacey Lilac by Sally Hansen.)  Also on the left is a super cute outfit I purchased COMPLETELY with Kohl’s cash- crop leggings and a white tank that says “Run Wild Forever”  I think all of this was about $38, so, good deal.  Basically I put this outfit together with the RELIC Bag and I think it’s SUPER cute.Image

So, back to shoes- I love boots.  I think almost every girl does.  I know my Pretty Little Liars addiction has caused me to become obsessed with riding boots. (I ❤ SPOBY).  However, not all of us can afford those beautiful $500 Tori Burch boots, so I found a slight dupe from Guess that is available for purchase at Macy’s.  I think they’re actually a lot cuter than the TB’s, but that’s just my opinion.  These ones are only $99.  You can also find riding boots easily for under $30, but they aren’t likely to last as long.  It’s up to you, it’s just a staple that you may want to have when fall hits.


We are almost done!  Another item you may want to have in your wardrobe is a good semi-formal or party dress.  I love picking up semi-formal dresses whenever I see them, especially if they’re a great deal.  I recently picked up these shapeless dresses from a small local boutique, and they were not only marked down, but buy one, get one free! I ended up getting them both for $24.  It was pretty amazing.  Buying dresses like this allows you to have a really versatile piece that you can wear anywhere.



Nail polish.


So anyways, I’ve been picking up some cute Summer-Fall transition nail colors.  Right now for summer I love corals and lavenders, as well as mint green.  (Candy Apple Mint by Essie).  But for Fall-Winter, I like dark greens and blacks, as well as gunmetals and deep reds.  Pictured here is my mini back to school collection for polishes.  Ulta is having a deal right now where you spend $10 and get $3.50 off- not a bad coupon to use for a polish haul!


Well, that’s it for now.  Happy hunting!  Check back next week for a guide on school supplies and organization tips! Hope I inspired you ❤